From Vern Gowdie – Gowdie Family Wealth (Australia) –
‘We are so embarrassed. We didn’t know how to tell you.’
With those opening comments, our friends had our attention.
For the next three hours we listened, questioned, consoled and counselled. Our shoulders were the ones our friends decided to cry on.
Our friends are very successful businesspeople. They have two adult children aged in their early to mid-twenties.
We had no idea of the torment they’d been going through for the best part of a year. They’re still trying to figure out the why, how and what of their youngest daughter’s actions.
If you’d asked me prior to the weekend, ‘How would you describe their youngest?’ I would have said: ‘Level headed, respectful, loving and appreciative…she reminds me of our daughters.’
The person they were describing to us was none of the above. Resentful. Angry. Abusive. Mean. Spiteful.
It’s like she’s been possessed and is in need of an exorcism.
They said that she wanted for nothing. Car provided. Her own house provided. All living expenses covered. University costs paid for. Spending money provided.
From the outside looking in, there was plenty of love in the family. The times we socialised together, our families connected. The children were well-mannered. Engaging conversationalists. Respectful to their parents. Perfect family.
The mild-mannered, long-time boyfriend from a good home has been ditched for a ‘bad boy’. Our friends suspect he’s a drug dealer.
The daughter has sold the car. Moved out of the house. The parents have cut off all funding. They’ve been to their solicitor to change their estate plans.
The siblings have cordial contact. The parents have only recently spoken to their daughter after a period of silence lasting five months.
What went wrong? Why has the youngest rebelled?